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Why do jerks think they aren’t jerks and are misunderstood?
I listened to a episode of a radio show of why women date jerks. One of the two guests said we aren’t jerks we’re misunderstood. He didn’t expand further beyond that. That strikes me as a vague denial answer. I’m not understanding how they can see themselves as minderstood, not jerks when their behavior fits a jerk.
Assuming we are talking about male jerks, I think it has something to do with the way *some men are raised. When you are born into a culture where the Deity of your religion is most likely referred to as “he,” where the male is considered to be the “head” of the household, and all presidents have been male, I think without much education otherwise, it would be easy for a boy to grow up thinking that men are more valuable and significant than women. When you think you are above someone else, how much easier is it to treat them poorly (act like a jerk)? And same thing for *some of those women who stay with the jerks – if you grew up in a culture where men were praised above women, as a woman you subconsciously wonder if you are less/have lower self-esteem – and stay with the person who treats you poorly.
Notice I marked some. I grew up in the “bible belt” of the US and see this in my own family, but I think it’s a lot more widespread than people would like to admit. Just my experience/opinion, though.
So to answer your question, these men may not realize they are being jerks, according to what they consciously/unconsciously believe in. Or they simply may not care about the women they are with.
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