Dating Ltr
How do I find a girl and ask her out?
I got out of a LTR 5 months ago and I think I’m ready to start dating. Thing is, I only go to work and pick my kids up from school. I don’t even know if any of the girls I work with are lesbians, and really, who wants to mess with dating a coworker. My friends are hetero couples. I don’t go to bars really.
Also, I have NEVER asked anyone out. I don’t know how.
Am I hopeless?
Approach the girl you like. Say “hi” or “hey” and ask her a question or give her a compliment. It can be scary, but it’s really pretty simple. If starting conversations is not your strong point, read these articles:
How to Talk to Strangers
How to Come Up with Good Conversation Topics
Flirt a little! Relax, crack a joke, and break the touch barrier (see How to Touch a Girl).
Gauge her interest. Take notice of eye contact, smiling, laughter, and enthusiasm in her responses. Read her body language.
Notice if she touches you more often than what friends do (she’s constantly trying to touch your hand or something). If she finds excuses to do so, then you’re probably on the right track. But conversely, don’t assume that just because she isn’t touching you that she doesn’t like you. She may be too nervous to touch you yet.
Observe how she looks at you. If she likes you, she will either hold it for a long time or pull away immediately. Either of these could mean that she likes you. If she pulls away quickly, it means she is nervous but she still likes you. If you happen to glance at the girl and you see her staring back at you, then this means that she likes you, although she may quickly dart her head in a different direction.
Pop the question. “Hey, why don’t you come to the movies with me this weekend?” (It doesn’t have to be the movies – it can be anything you’re interested in, and that you think she’ll enjoy too.)
Another good way to ask is “I heard about this movie, _______. What do you think about it?” If she says she’d like to see it, ask if she’d want to see it with you. If she says “As in a date?”, don’t be afraid to say yes. If she doesn’t say that, just make a time, turn up and treat it like a date and she’ll get the drift.
Keep your cool if she says no. Respond gracefully, like “No problem! Maybe another time. I’ll see you around, OK?” And go about your business – there are other fish in the sea!
Another way to go about doing it is to bail before she has a chance to respond.
Dating Advice – Pat’s LIGHTNING round Part 1
