Dating Filipino
Dating a Filipino….How to not compete?
I’ve been with my boyfriend since March of this year. He was born and raised in the Philippines and has only been here for 2 years. I’m his first girlfriend in the U.S. We are very open with each other and I know about his ex’s and I’ve seen pictures of them. I can’t help but in my mind compete with these women. I love him but I don’t know what to do and I’m not familiar with his culture because I’m american and he tries to fit in. But he does make comments on how it’s so much different in our behaviors and our whole culture is different. So what do I do?
eriously someone help. I love him and I just want to make our relationship stronger by better understanding where he comes from and his views on things
First, are you Filipino (American born) as well?
Second, he may still be having a culture shock considering he’s only been here for 2 years. Try to help him assimilate with the new environment though not to the point that he forgets where he came (meaning, he doesn’t embrace his Filipino side anymore). Also, relating to the first question if you’re a American born Filipino or of some other race, I think it would be good if you also try to experience his culture and vice versa.
Third, don’t compete they don’t always work as you would like them to. Just love him to the best of your ability and be yourself. Don’t worry about the ex, she’s oceans apart :p and if he does talk about her maybe it’s just his way of remembering his old home.
This wikipedia will give you a snippet of what the Philippine culture is like: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Culture_of_the_Philippines
Filipina Dating — www.filipinaeyes.com
